Eyes of a Child “Daddy?” There came a small tug on the sleeve of the sleeping man. He had collapsed in his chair after dinner and meant only to watch a few minute of television. At his arm, he knew without even opening his eyes that his small girl stood impatiently.
“Mmm. What Wendi?” the father replied lazily, eyes still closed. There were some in his small circle of friends that he had infinite patience with his daughter. Truth be told it wasn’t as hard as they thought.
He felt hands smooth over his face. “Open your eyes Daddy,” his girl said impatiently.
Chuckling he did so, his eyes clearing the blur and holding his daughters form. Her vision was a birth defect, but to a father his daughter is always perfect to behold.
“Daddy,” knowing now that she held his full attention—she accepted nothing less.
“Tell me a story for bedtime.” It was both a question and a command, in that innocent yet manipulative way that only a woman, no matter the age, is able to achieve.
He rubbed a hand over his own face, clearing away the cobwebs, “All right kiddo, any special requests tonight?” He was solidly built, and lifted her easily and giggling into the air to his lap.
“Yes, yes. Your trip to Europe.” At this her father smiled, because he knew that the unspoken request was truly
the story of my mother. It was a household favorite for comfort, for good dream, for any number of things.
Wendi's father smiled warmly at his daughter's request, and he remembers the thousands of times he has told her the story of he and her mother's picnic in the Netherlands. His daughter had never asked for a fantasy story, she constantly wanted the stories that he knew of other people's lives. He didn't mind repeating the stories so much, though, they were pretty much all they had left of her mother.
He took a deep breath. “All right kiddo, ready?” she squirmed around a little as she found a comfortable spot and settled in against his chest.
"Ready"
"Well, our day started at the little hotel where we were staying. The day was bright and warm for the north. It was only spring, and even though the day wasn’t completely cloudless it was sunny out." His mind wandered briefly as he remembered the days of simply teaching his little girl what words meant. Her tutor suggested he take an active part, which was easy, but Wendi’s inquisitive mind seemed to always want more. More than once they were up past any normal child’s birthday feeling sand and finding words to describe it. Clouds were difficult. They finally settled that clouds appeared soft, like cotton, and were light and misty, like water from a spray bottle. It was amazing to him every day the way her mind grasps and saw these things. Humans were such visual creatures. To Wendi though, a sunny day meant warmth on the skin, certain breezes. Clouds were brief pauses of chill, that she could feel move across her. “I had gotten out of bed before your mother and had ordered some breakfast to come up to the room. I had toast and jam and a little tea, and she had pancakes with chocolate sprinkles--"
"Haggle, right Daddy?" she interrupted him.
"Yes dear." he never expected an inactive audience and took each outburst with loving stride.
"Yours wasn't very Hollish," she said disapprovingly.
"No dear, not very Hollish," he laughed joggling her on his lap, “but that's what I had.”
So the story went, event after event, interruption after interruption, and laughter following itself. Wendi's father told of how he and his wife took a canal boat to one of the parks that had been erected on a dike, and of how the sleek cranes puttered around at the edge of the water moving their long soft bodies against the warm sky behind them.
Wendi smiled and lifted her face or turned as if listening. He couldn’t really imagine what it was like to imagine a story based on everything but sight. Yet, when he spoke of warm sun her face turned as if feeling it. When there were birds or trams roaring by she turned her head, hearing in her mind. In a way he dearly appreciated the care he had to take in describing that day with his only love. It was an exceptional day. One that made a few of the other that were mediocre, or the once that were spent in a row over who left the train tickets where. But recalling all the “unimportant details” which Wendi was relentless in asking for, made it all the more vibrant a tale.
Early on in their story telling routine he wondered why she never seemed to want stories about dragons or princes. Instead she wanted only stories about his day, his week, his life before she came. Additionally she expected every detail, every nuance to be explained.
Then, he had an epiphany one day as he rose one morning to open the bind in his bedroom window. The room flooded with light and the warm morning hit him. He realized with a small start that this of course was what his daughter was doing. Remembering vicariously through him all the tactile experiences of his day. When he described kite flying as a boy, she felt the wind and the tug of it on the string. When he recalled his roommate in college and their dog Winston, she felt the fur, the bigness, the warm living thing on her face.
In that moment it unnerved him slightly because he realized that he carried so few tactile and auditory memories with him. Scent had always been a deep human memory, but the rest… What had his roommates voice really sounded like? How hard exactly did the kite pull, and how did it feel when its line snapped? These were of course the only things that mattered in the stories to his daughter.
As any good father would from then on he did his utmost to capture the things of life he, like so many others, were guilty of taking for granted. On the way to work he frequently closed his eyes on the train, remembering people by their voices, the sound of the train that day, differences in his route by things other than sight. What he found was even if there were things his daughter knew by touch, say a hot dog. She would tell him that one he had for lunch sounded different than the ones she had at home.
In so many ways she was a miracle in his life.
Her mother died in birthing her and the complications that he foresaw raising her alone were daunting. For years he raised her as best he could in a cloud of deep depression. His firm had a daycare luckily and the care-givers were deeply empathetic to his situation and Wendi’s needs. He spent all the time he could with her—her tutor said that proximity was still vitally important even to children who would never actually see the face of their parents. It did something surely, because now she said she could smell him the moment he entered the garage.
When she began speaking his darkness and depression took a deeper turn. In a terrible and black cosmic irony her first word was “eye.” Or more probably “I,” because, he reasoned, he caught himself rattling on to her in her infancy about “your mother and I.” But at the time it was more than he could take. Luckily his parents were more than happy to take his daughter for a few days while he “got himself together,” As his father had put it. In some kind of grandparent amazement they had adapted much swifter than he did. Somehow his mother had found baby books in Braille. In those few days he ran the gamut of his lowest and highest point. The lowest when he sat drunk on the floor, railing at the sky, tears streaming his face. The highest was almost a week later when his mother called one afternoon to report his daughter had said her second word. “Hug.” She had said it when she was wrapping a bottle of his cologne for Christmas. She related to him how, over a number of tests—his mother, ever the scientist—she concluded that it was in fact the cologne she was associating. “She a brilliant girl, my dear,” she had said, “and it quite obvious she misses her father.”
So it was that for many more years, “Hug” really meant daddy. As is the way for childhood pet names it was replaced, but he would always miss little arms upraised and the chant of “hug, hug.”
She was his light in this life. Not only giving him the purpose and focus to raise and love and be with her, but also rekindling the love for life he thought snuffed out with his wife.
Now that she was older, she cared for him just as much as he did for her. She read incessantly, her fingers had even become lightly calloused, and so was probably smarter than he was. And had regulated him to no more than one scotch week which had always been a particular after work weakness for him, but she was impossible to get around. She sniffed him out no matter were in the house he was and could hear a screw cap or a decanter top from the other end of it. He had no choice but to comply, or drink in the car, and pride kept him from that.
As the story rode on to its conclusion, with his and his wife’s long kiss in front of the hotel doorman, Wendi was of course already drowsing. He smiled down at her, involuntarily. She was his perfect girl.